Ever since I was a little girl, I have dreamed about every detail of my wedding day. I think at some point in our lives, we’ve all thought about that special day, right? Like, who will you marry? What will your first song be? What flowers will you use? What about the colors?

Well, I’m here to tell you that the perfect little wedding you always imagined in your head will most likely never play out exactly how you dreamed. And guess what…that’s okay.

For those of you who don’t already know, two weeks ago, I officially became a Mrs. and had the most incredible wedding you could imagine. Was it the wedding I imagined? Not totally. Let me explain…

For the last 8 months, I worked day and night planning out every single detail of my wedding. I spent hours on the phone interviewing and working with vendors, listening to music for the band, contemplating over different shades of pink and personally hand tying together our 5 page ceremony brochures (to name a few things). I felt like I left no stone unturned. I thought that I had everything under control. Well, guess what? I didn’t!

Here are 5 things that went wrong during my special day (and why it’s totally fine).

1) Right after our first dance, I went and had my dress bustled up (my train was pretty long) so that I could enjoy myself. As I’m coming back into the ballroom, one of my guests got really excited, accidentally stepped on the back of my dress and RIPPED my bustle leaving me with a 5 ft long train to drag around the rest of the night. I panicked for a second and then remembered that my seamstress put in a little loop under my dress  to hold it up when I was getting in and out of a car. I ended up using that, wrapped it around my wrist and I just held it up all night. I got a great arm workout and everyone kept complimenting me on how elegant it was that I was holding my dress like that. Who knows, maybe I’ve started a new trend! What do you think?

2) Setting the ambience of the reception room was SO important to me. I worked with the most amazing florist and designer, Yasiris from Exquisite Linens and Florals to make my vision and dreams a reality. To make our sweetheart table stand out and look really special, I rented a gorgeous love seat couch from Yasiris that really tied the room together. Well, before we were even announced into the room, someone was having a little too much fun on the dance floor, slipped and spilled their drink all over our table and drenched the couch. It was so bad that they actually had to remove it from the room and I never got to sit in it! Luckily, after the ceremony (while everyone was enjoying cocktail hour), Dan and I snuck into the reception room and got a few photos in it. And to be honest, it probably would have obstructed peoples views anyway and I wouldn’t have gotten such incredible photos (Thanks to Andy Defrancesco for his incredible photography) like the one of my parents giving their speech! Everything happens for a reason!

3) I’ve always dreamed of a spring wedding. After checking the 5-year history of Boston weather, I was confident I would have a beautiful, sunny 50-60 degree day on my wedding. Well, mother nature had a different idea and decided to give us a little snow storm. Honestly, it ended up being the most incredible backdrop and my photographer, Juancho SC was able to capture some of the most breath taking photos. It goes to show you that no matter what the weather is, if you have a great photographer, you can make anything look beautiful.

4) For months Dan and I were going back and forth on our first dance song. We both loved John Legend’s, “All of me” and initially chose that song. Well, two days before the wedding I got caught up in my own head and last minute thought Ed Sheeran’s “Thinking out loud” was a better fit for the “feel I was going for”. Needless to say, our first dance was a little bit awkward and although the song is beautiful, neither of us felt like it was the right fit. Later on in the night, the band decided to play that John Legend song and it was probably the most special moment of our wedding. We felt so in love in that moment and as we were dancing, it was like no one else was in the room. Dan was even singing to me (and if you know Dan at all, this is so out of character).

I think there is a reason all of this happened. You see, inherently your first dance is a little uncomfortable to begin with. Everyone is watching you and you’re kind of putting on a show. I don’t know if we would have been able to have that special “alone” moment had that song been played as our first dance song. It all worked out too perfectly.

5) As a part of our wedding ceremony, we asked our fathers to perform the traditional jewish 7 marriage blessings over us. After walking down the aisle, Dan’s Dad realized he forgot the paper with the blessings on them and had to literally leave the ceremony, run up to his hotel room and get the blessings and come back before I walked down the aisle (good thing he’s in good shape). It ended up being an awesome moment because as he was running by me, I got to give him a hug and a kiss, albeit very quickly, before I walked down. It felt really special to see someone that was going to be a part of my new family before I said, “I do”.

In the end, having all these things not go according to plan was truly a blessing in disguise. It was a great lesson going into my marriage that things aren’t always going to go according to plan. It’s important to look past the negativity and work to see the light, beauty and positivity in everything.

I genuinely feel so blessed to have had such an incredible wedding, the most supportive families and to be married to the most wonderful man.

Love always,
Erica

  Ceremony & Reception: The Four Seasons Boston

Photography: Juancho SC

Videography: Epic Filmmakers

Band: Night Shift

Makeup: Syracuse Makeup Artistry

Hair: Beauty PaRLR

Flowers: Exquisite Linens and Florals

Wedding Day of Coordinator: Em E. Gibbons

Lighting: Allstar Entertainment & Uplighting

Dress: Allure Bridal

Shoes: Jimmy Choo Spring 2015 “Deema”